Resources for Couples
Why do so many relationships that begin so happily end up with each partner feeling like the other one doesn't really care anymore?
Of course of what happens after the honeymoon period is over is that you begin to see the other person's faults very clearly (and they see yours!) and you start to feel disappointed that they aren't perfect.
Then, when inevitable disagreements come up, you may resort to name-calling, put-downs or other slights that result in on going hurt and mistrust.
One of the first suggestions I often make to couples in this situation is that they adopt "Fair Fighting Rules." Disagreements are inevitable but dirty fighting that damages the other person and the relationship, are not!
FAIR FIGHTING RULES
UNSPEAKABLE LOSSES by Kim Kluger-Bell
My book on healing from pregnancy loss and the traumas of infertility which includes practical suggestions such as holding ceremonies and memorials to facilitate recovery, (WW Norton and HarperCollins). The book is available through Amazon and other on-line outlets.
My Books for Donor & Surrogate Kids
The Pea That Was Me
is a book that introduces donor-conceived kids (3-5) to the special way they came into the world. (There are versions for egg donation, sperm donation, single mom/sperm donation & others)
Click on cover for more information at Books For Donor Kids.
The Very Kind Koala: A Surrogacy Story
is a book for kids (3-5) which introduces them to the concept of surrogacy in a positive and charming way.
Click on cover for more information at Books for Donor Kids.
Fortunately, there are many resources available for those who are struggling to build their families.
Some of my favorite websites are:
And I highly recommend these books:
Unsung Lullabies by Jaffe & Diamond
Conquering Infertility by A Domar
A Few Good Eggs by Vargo & Regan
The Infertility Cure by R. Lewis